How to Be Instantly More Confident at Work – Insights from Erin McGoff & Jefferson Fisher

Confidence at work isn’t about faking it till you make it—it’s about building real habits that reinforce your self-worth and help you communicate with clarity and purpose.

In a powerful recent episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, host Jefferson Fisher sat down with workplace communication expert Erin McGoff to unpack exactly how to be instantly more confident at work. Whether you're preparing for an interview, dealing with passive-aggressive colleagues, or asking for a payrise, the episode offers grounded, practical tips that you can use immediately.

Here’s a breakdown of the key takeaways from their conversation.

1. Rewire Your Inner Voice

Erin emphasises that confidence starts with how we talk to ourselves. Her go-to mindset shift? Be your own best friend.

Instead of letting your inner critic run wild (“That sounded silly” or “They probably didn’t like me”), pause and respond with the kindness you’d show a close friend. This habit doesn’t just soften your self-talk—it reshapes your entire approach to professional challenges.

2. Answer Tough Interview Questions with Poise

Interviews can shake anyone’s confidence, especially when you're asked about your weaknesses. Erin's advice: don't dodge the question—own it and frame it as growth.

For example:

“In the past, I struggled with overcommitting. I’ve since built better systems for prioritising my workload and communicating boundaries.”
This kind of framing shows maturity, reflection, and progress—all signs of a confident professional.

3. Handle Difficult Colleagues Without Losing Your Cool
Passive-aggressive behaviour in the workplace can feel hard to confront. Erin suggests a direct, calm approach:

✔️Name the behaviour (without blaming)
✔️Describe the impact it had on you or your work
✔️Invite cooperation or clarity going forward

Example:

“I noticed you mentioned X during the meeting. I felt a bit taken off guard. Can we clarify how we’re approaching that going forward?”
These conversations are never easy—but they're essential for protecting your energy and your confidence.

4. Quit Your Job the Right Way

Thinking about leaving your job? Erin and Jefferson recommend doing so with professionalism and gratitude. Here's their four-part framework for a graceful exit:

✔️Be clear and decisive
✔️Express appreciation
✔️Offer to support the transition
✔️Leave on good terms (you never know when paths will cross again)
✔️This isn’t just about reputation—it’s about leaving with your confidence intact.

5. Ask for a Payrise with Strategy (Not Apology)

If you’re underpaid, asking for a pay review can feel daunting. Erin flips the script: make it a team conversation. Focus on shared goals and speak in the language your manager understands.

Try this approach:

“Over the past 6 months, I’ve delivered X, Y, and Z. I’d love to talk about how that aligns with our goals and what next steps might look like in terms of compensation.”
It’s professional, respectful, and gives your manager a clear picture of your value—without sounding defensive or awkward.

Why These Tactics Work
✅ Scripted language reduces anxiety – You’re not stuck searching for words in the moment
✅ Self-talk builds inner calm – Which shapes how you show up externally
✅ Direct communication protects relationships – And builds a personal brand of clarity and strength

Final Thoughts
Confidence doesn’t come from having all the answers—it comes from knowing how to respond to challenges with grace, honesty, and courage. Erin McGoff and Jefferson Fisher show that it’s not some mysterious trait you’re born with. It’s something you can practice, today.

If you’re navigating tough conversations or transitions at work, try using one of the scripts above. And if you haven’t already, I highly recommend listening to the full episode—it’s packed with real examples and practical tools you can start using right away.

Clare at Vardey Recruitment can support you in learning more and guide you to additional sources of support.

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